Becoming Your Ideal Self
If you have an ideal, it's a judge. You will fall short of your ideals, but you don't have a choice in the matter. In order to have an ideal, it has to be ahead of you - otherwise it's not an ideal - and in doing so, you'll never realize your ideals because they keep moving.
It's a blessing and a curse to be able to place yourself within a state of blissful dissatisfaction, but it's a choice nonetheless.
In order to move forward, you have to have something in place that forces you to become better than who you were yesterday, instead of comparing yourself to who someone else is today.
"A man who has not passed through the inferno of his passions has never overcome them. As far as we can discern, the sole purpose of human existence is to kindle a light in the darkness of mere being. Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves." - Carl Jung
Until you make the decisions that allow you to control your unconscious behavior, you'll continue repeating the past for as long as you're alive.
It's not a simple trick either to completely rewire your brain, but it simply goes without saying that you are what you do, not what you say you'll do.
You can't change anything by thought alone, rather action is fundamental in the manifestation of your ideas and your goals alike. You can't reprogram your mind to destroy your self-destructive habits when you judge others instead of being the judge of yourself.
Compassion should be a golden ideal, but discernment ought to be a greater one to uphold within your life, as it will allow you to preserve the traits that you want to manifest within yourself and other people.
Your difficulties will vanquish when faced boldly with an indomitable will and proper planning. All you have to do is take a close look at yourself and you will understand everyone else, both good and evil.
However, the easiest way to solve a problem is to deny it exists; you have to scrub off your flaws in order to become something better instead of a person you accept out of ease.